How to Last Longer in Bed: 41 Proven to Work Tips

This article will give you every possible tip you need to last longer in bed. No holes barred! (Pun intended). No beating around the bush! (Pun definitely intended…)

Lasting longer in bed shouldn’t be an ego thing. Some guys want to last longer just because they want to outperform their lover’s past lovers. You’ve got to get that thinking out of your head right now. Why? Because if your woman is really into you, her past lovers don’t matter anyway, and comparing yourself to someone unknown or known can seriously mess with your mind while having sex.

The desire to last longer in bed should be brain-dead simple as to why – lasting longer means more pleasure, more fun, more enjoyment, and more sex. Get your ego out of the way, and you’ll be giving her mind-blowing orgasms for hours and hours. How? By adopting a different mindset.

Your mindset should be simple – Give to receive. Give her what she wants, and you’ll get what you want. It’s as simple as that!

Tips To Last Longer in Bed

So, here are 41 tips for lasting longer and ending premature ejaculation:

1. It’s More About Your Mindset Than Your Penis

Let me ask you a question… What is the biggest sex organ that you have? I can hear your answer right now… If you answered, “My c**k, you dummy,” well, I have to correct you. The biggest sex organ you have in your body is your brain. Your mind. Your mind-set. What do I mean by this?

So many guys get way too hung up about their penis size or if they cum too soon. Also, they overly worry about what their woman is going to think. No wonder why a lot of guys have trouble in bed! What I am here to tell you is that sex is much, much more about your mindset than it is about anything else. Hell, if you were to give your woman a long tongue bath on her clitoris until she came, she’d probably tell you that you were the best lover she ever had! No cock needed! Only brains willing to satisfy his woman.

2. How Meditation Can Help You Last Longer

Meditation is a great Eastern philosophy technique to reduce stress, stop thinking so many negative thoughts, focus, breathe, and align yourself with your lover. Stress is one of the leading causes of premature ejaculation! When you can learn to quiet your mind, you will learn to quiet your over-eager penis. Meditation is no longer just for new-age groupies and sissies. So man up and meditate! How? It’s very simple – first, find a quiet, comfortable place to sit where you won’t be disturbed for a half hour.

Set a timer for 15 to 20 minutes. Close your eyes, and be still. Pretend your thoughts are like a parade, and let them just pass by you. That’s it! Brain-dead simple.

3. Yoga Isn’t Just For Women Anymore

Think yoga is just for women or wimps? Guess again! Yoga has been around a lot longer than you have, and everyone is starting to understand its tremendous value for the body, mind, and soul. But also, it will help you stay in bed longer!

One of the main reasons to do yoga is because it rejuvenates the body, regulates hormones and bodily functions, and tones the body.

4. 10 Minute Daily Routine That Will Supercharge Your Lasting Time

To supercharge your lasting time, you’ve got to supercharge yourself from within. Everything starts from within! I’m not some new-age woo-woo guy telling you this. What am I talking about? Affirmations! All it takes is about 10 minutes a day.

Affirmations generally work as a tool for shifting your mindset and achieving your goals, but they’re not a magic bullet for instant success or healing.

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/do-affirmations-work

The best way to do this is to write down your affirmations on paper – don’t copy it from a list. Look at the list from my book, but then write them down from memory. After a while, you can add some of your own. Like Nike said, just do it! But do it when you are feeling pretty good; otherwise, it won’t be very helpful.

5. What Can Kobe Bryant Teach You About Lasting Longer?

In Kobe’s heyday, he was the ultimate warrior NBA player. How did he get there? One way was that his main coach, Phil Jackson, was considered the zen master guru of all of the coaches in the NBA. What did Phil and Kobe know that others didn’t? The power of the mind. The power of visualization. Many athletic and scientific studies have been done to prove that the more that you visualize, the better you will perform! The 1976 Russian Olympic weightlifting team proved that beyond a shadow of a doubt. They got amazing results. How? By visualizing everything about their event – from the smell of the Olympic gym to the sounds of the crowd.

Do it. Imagine having amazing sex with your girlfriend – the more you can get all of your senses involved, the better – that is, smell, touch, hearing, sight, and sound.

6. Are Your Masturbation Habits Causing Your Premature Ejaculation?

When you were younger, you may have had no concern for how long you masturbated. In order to keep it from your mom or little sister, you probably came really quickly. This habit could be wreaking havoc on your sex life!

What is the answer? Edging. What is edging? It is the ability to withhold ejaculating while masturbating. You should be able to choke the chicken for at least half an hour before coming.

7. Best Way To Increase Testosterone AND Eliminate Premature Ejaculation

The Stronglifts 5×5 is simply the best, most effective workout ever to get stronger, build muscle, and lose fat, thereby raising your testosterone levels. It involves 5 workouts – squats, bench press, deadlift, overhead press, and barbell row. 5×5 means that you do five sets of five reps for each of these workouts. You would do three of these workouts three times a week for 45 minutes each workout. However, because squats are the most effective exercise, you do them every workout as one of the three.

8. Candy That You Can Eat Guilt Free And Last Longer

Dark chocolate or cocoa is actually good for you! It contains flavonoids, which have been found to lower your risk of cancer and heart disease and raise your serotonin levels – thereby increasing your lasting time in bed! Serotonin improves your mood, too.

Not all chocolates are created equal, however. Milk chocolate has a lot more sugar in it than dairy milk, with less serotonin. Dark chocolate with 85% cocoa has the most serotonin at 2.9 micrograms. However, according to a study published in “The Journal of Chromatography A” in April 2012, 70 to 85% of cocoa has the most L-tryptophan, at 13.3 micrograms per gram. The study suggests that this lower amount of cocoa actually offers more health benefits.

Also, what you need to know is that some chocolate companies sell “cold-pressed” chocolate, which is supposed to protect many of the antioxidants that the heating process of most chocolate would destroy.

9. This Activity Could Be Killing Your Sex Life

Guess what activity I’m talking about? No, not that one! The other one… Porn. Never before in the history of man has it been possible for men to look at so many naked chicks at once! And for free! The problem is that when you start to watch porn, your dopamine levels rise, making you a complete dope!

How so?

Dopamine has a chemical reaction in your brain that makes you believe that what you are currently doing is THE most important thing in your life. It’s a nasty trick. Guys end up wasting their lives away watching porn after porn movie, searching for that one perfect woman in that one perfect scene to get him off. But it never really comes because novelty sets in, driving him to search for something new.

If that sounds like you, you’ve got to stop. Unfortunately for us, once you develop an addiction to porn, it’s like an addictive drug, and the only way to stop it is to completely stop watching it. Now, if you have a girlfriend who wants you to watch it with her, that’s different. But do yourself and her a favor and quit any porn addiction you may have.

10. This One Thing Alone Can Double Your Lasting Time (and Get Her to Have Better Orgasms)

Listen up. This is really important. Do you want your girl to crave being with you like no other? Great… I thought so.

How can you do that? You do that by upping your foreplay game, that’s how.

What is foreplay? It is all of the stuff that happens before you do the dirty deed. It is flirting and kissing, fondling and sexting. It is everything before sex. How long should you do foreplay? It all depends upon what is going on. You can start early in the morning and have foreplay with her all day while she is at work! By the time she gets home, she will be wetter than a beaver building a dam and ready to jump your bones. Make no bones about it! Women love foreplay.

11. Your Back Isn’t the Only Thing That Needs Stretching

Stretching is very important to your all-around health and also to allowing yourself to be loose and limber. It also allows for more blood to flow freely through your muscles. Go here and watch the video on how to stretch your groin area.

12. The #1 Sex Position To Last Longer

Try the cowgirl position if you are a little quick on the draw with your gun full of spunk. Cowgirl is where you lay on your back, and your woman rides you like a cowgirl who has a dildo attached to her saddle. It’s great for her because she can move in any way she needs to for maximum pleasure, and it’s great for you because you can slow her down if she goes too fast. If she goes too fast, all you have to do is slow her down by grabbing her hips. Lying on your back has a way of keeping the blood from flowing as easily into your baloney pony so that orgasm is not as easy. Also, the angle when you are in your girlfriend’s cock-pocket is not as stimulating as, say, doggy style.

13. Use Techniques of Buddhist Monks to Increase Your Lasting Time

I wrote some about this in my book. But what I didn’t say was that Buddhist Monks and others believe that deep breathing is one of the best ways to connect with your higher self or your non-physical self. They believe that it is your closest physical connection to source energy. When you deep breathe, it is much easier to let go of stress, center yourself, focus, and be in the present moment.

Living in the present moment is a good thing! It will allow you to be stress-free during sex, oxygenate your entire body, and allow you to take your time and extend sex for hours of banging if you want.

Try it at any time by slowly breathing deeply and holding it for a couple of seconds, and then letting it go. You only have to do it three times to realize a dramatic difference. Do it when it feels like you need to relieve stress.

14. Wear a Condom

Typically, the thicker the condom, the less your tonsil-tickler will feel. But it gets even better than that. Both Trojan and Durex have created condoms that use a desensitizing lubricant. This will give you more stamina because the lube contains Benzocaine in order to delay ejaculation while at the same time increasing sexual pleasure.

So give it a try and see how it works for you.

15. Mix It Up

One time, I was banging this really hot chick from behind doggy style, and I lost myself in the moment, and out of nowhere, I realized I was about to come. But instead of making That short delay kept me from cumming too soon.

Mixing it up can be a great way to keep the variety of sex going, too. She will love all of the different positions and enjoy the variety. Just make sure not to wait until it’s too late. Pull your anaconda out of her when you are about an 8 out of 10 relative to cumming.

16. Give Yourself A Hand

A study in Scotland proved that men who masturbated before speaking in public were much calmer and self-confident when delivering their speeches. It was also found that it will help you boost your morale, feel more grounded and centered, and be in a better frame of mind.

You get all of those benefits, plus when you are on a date, it reduces stress and anxiety and allows you to be in more control of yourself in bed.

The general guideline is to masturbate one to two hours before sex, but it all depends upon you. Only you know when it’s best.

17. Thrusting Is Not The Only Way

Thrusting all the way in and out is not the only way to have sex! All that sliding your meat stick deep in her and pulling nearly all the way out is obviously going to make you come sooner than a puppy with two peters. It’s fine to do that as long as you don’t feel like you’re going to cum too soon. But once you do get up to an 8 out of 10 on the “Dickter Scale,” try shoving your member deep into her, hold it for a moment, and then do very short mini-strokes while deep inside her love canal.

She will love the variety, the depth, and the feeling of having you so deep in her bat cave.

18. When In Doubt, Slow Down

One of the biggest mistakes of premature ejaculation is simply banging way too fast. Sometimes, it’s hard not to go fast, especially if your woman is really into it and seems to be loving it. But going slow has a lot of advantages, such as allowing you to last longer! So, get her to slow down with you – or, like I already said, vary your speed depending upon where you are on the dickter scale. The dickter scale goes from 0 to 10, where 10 is when you’re cumming. So, when you get close to cumming, like an 8, slow down. Vary the tempo. This isn’t the 100-yard dash! It’s more like a 5K run…

19. Use This Natural Aphrodisiac To Last Longer Naturally

Ginkgo biloba is the new blue pill! I didn’t even realize it was now considered that good, but it is. The website Virility Protocol has an article titled “Gingko Biloba – 84% Effective at Treating Sexual Dysfunction.” The title alone says it all!

Ginkgo biloba is a very popular study aid for students because of its positive effect on the brain. But also, researchers have found that it was proven to treat 76% of men and 91% of women for those suffering from depression. But it gets even better than that.

In this article, it said, “In this study, ginkgo biloba had a positive effect on all 4 phases of the sexual response cycle – desire, excitement (erection & lubrication) orgasm and resolution, also referred to as “afterglow.”

The article recommends taking 40-80mg 3 times a day (up to 240mg/day).

20. Sleep is Essential

This tip is simple common sense. Sleep is essential to rejuvenate your body, mind, and spirit. It helps your memory, your weight control, your mood, your immune system, and your sex life. If you are not getting enough sleep, you’re not going to be able to perform as well in bed. So, get plenty of sleep. People tend to vary around 8 hours of sleep a night, but do what feels right to you so that you feel refreshed and eager every morning when you get up.

21. Stress Is a Sex Killer

It is a well-known fact that stress kills. But also, the truth is that stress is a sex killer. In tip #2, I mentioned the importance of meditation. One of the main reasons to meditate is because it is a great stress reliever. But also, if you want to know a technique that truly gets to the root of anything that you’re stressed about, try the technique called Emotional Freedom Technique. It is free to learn and is the best tool on the planet to learn to remove stress.

22. Be Present

I already touched on this, but it is worth repeating. Be present. I can hear what you’re thinking – “What the hell does that mean, Jared?” What it means is that when you are with your woman, you’re not thinking about the bills to be paid to your mother, who is sick, or your car that was just in an accident. When you are present, you are focused on the here and now, and you are able to hold off all of the other incessant thoughts that you normally think. Being present means enjoying life in the moment. Try it.

23. Vary Your Thrusting

This is closely related to grinding, but it includes the idea of varying your thrusting and not going too deep. “But wait, Jared! You just said to go deep when you grind. What the f?” Good point. What I am saying here is that before you go deep and grind, go shallow and use shallow thrusts. As she gets more and more lubed up, then go deep and grind into her all of the way if she’s ready. Hold it there all the way in, and THEN use shallow thrusts. Vary your thrusting based on how close you are to cumming. You can do it!

24. The One Fruit You Can Eat To Last Longer In Bed

I wonder if mother nature purposely shaped the banana to look like a penis so that it would remind guys to eat them before sticking their human bananas in their women… Bananas are high in potassium, which is a nutrient that helps in sex hormone production and boosts energy. They also help with muscle cramps.

So, the next time you’re at the market, grab a few bananas for your own banana. Eat a banana two hours before sex.

25. Ladies First

One of the best ways to take the pressure off of yourself regarding sexual anxiety is to give your woman an orgasm first. This way, you won’t have to worry about giving her an orgasm by penetration. However, if she is a multi-orgasmic girl, she may come again too! But that’s fine because you’ve already satisfied her once.

The best way to give her an orgasm is through oral. You will have to learn about her clit and her g-spot and how to stimulate both at the same time in order to give her mind-blowing, holding-on-to-the-sheets orgasms.

26. Have Sex Often – Practice Makes Perfect

This is pretty self-explanatory because we all know that practice makes perfect. The point is to have sex often so that you will get better and better at it over time. There are so many things to learn about the woman’s body, and they are all different – trust me on that one! There was one funny depiction of the difference between how hard it is to turn on a woman versus a man. For instructions on how to turn on a woman, the pic was the cockpit of a 747 with literally hundreds of buttons and switches. For the man, the pic was a light switch with just two options – on, or off!

27. Yet Another Reason For Healthy Living

Again, it’s pure common sense. Stop smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol if you want to increase your stamina. In addition, you have to realize that most women hate the smell of cigarettes. They will never tell you to your face if you ask, so just don’t do it. And with regards to alcohol, it causes a lot of long-term physical problems if you drink too much. So, stop smoking and drinking – for your own health.

28. The ONE Technique Every Pornstar Uses to Last Longer

The roof-of-the-mouth technique is when you rub the roof of your mouth with your tongue in circles. You may think that all this does is keeps you distracted, but pressing your tongue to the roof of your mouth and moving it in circles causes you to be much more in tune with the sensations in your entire body, and not just your dick. I don’t know how to be any more blunt than that!

29. Try Standing Up

When you have sex standing up, it’s a lot harder to cum than normal. Even better is to carry her with her legs wrapped around you while you do her. Having to hold her up while fucking her will definitely help you to last longer because of the added focus you will need to keep her off the ground.

30. Lose the Dad Bod

What is the Dad Bod? It’s that body that has about 8 weeks of working off too much fat. In other words, it’s that body that still looks pretty good, but it has a roll of fat around the midsection that looks like it could be gone in 8 weeks if you worked out really hard.

Lose the Dad Bod. It’s not sexy, and it has been proven that losing weight and staying fit will help your stamina so you can last longer. Some women like the Dad Bod, but that’s only because Dad bods make fat chicks feel better about themselves! There are exceptions, but that’s pretty much true.

31. Increase Zinc Intake

Men’s Health magazine says that zinc is “the ultimate sex mineral.” Zinc plays a huge role in our bodies and in our overall sexual health.

Zinc will fight illness, maintain prostate health, and even help the body to produce testosterone.

The best way to get your zinc is through your food, such as oysters, beans, nuts, crab, lobster, whole grains, and a fortified breakfast. Since zinc is not something that your body creates, you need to either eat the right foods or take a supplement for it. The recommended daily allowance varies but should be at least 11 milligrams a day. Don’t take over 100 milligrams of zinc as a supplement because doing so doubles your risk of getting prostate cancer.

Every time that you ejaculate, you lose about 5 milligrams of zinc! So, zinc supplements are good to take when you cannot get enough zinc from your food.

32. This is What Pornstars Eat Before Shooting Scenes To Last Longer

Want to know what food is sometimes served up for pornstars on a set? Oysters. Eat oysters. They are known for being an aphrodisiac, for making more baby batter, and for lasting longer. If you want to bang like the pornstars, eat them. Why? One clue is this – only 6 oysters contain 76.7 milligrams of zinc. That means that ONE OYSTER will give your recommended daily allowance of zinc! Pretty impressive.

33. Best Gym Exercises You Can Do To Last Longer

One of the best exercises you can do to last longer is something called the pelvic lift. This is where you lie flat on your back with your knees bent, arms by your side, and then you raise your butt and mid-section up so that your legs and back are lined up.

This will strengthen your thrusting muscles in your stomach, hips, and thighs for better humping.

Of course, the other really important thing to do is to use weights using a barbell at the gym to boost strength and testosterone levels.

34. Go For the Second Round

Sometimes, it’s best to just get that first blast of semen out of you when you start having sex. It really depends upon you. If you think that you cannot last, let it blast! Then, try to have sex 10 to 20 minutes later. Give her oral during that time. After your own recovery, you should be able to last a lot longer…

35. Do This If You Are Near An Orgasm

When you get close to shooting your load too early, one thing you can try to do is to relax your muscles, especially around your legs and butt. This will tend to keep you from spilling your baby batter too soon. You can also try to go slower at the same time.

36. Use a Lube

Another trick to not busting a load is to use a lot of lube. Use a good lube that will last a while because it reduces friction, which is one of the main causes of premature ejaculation.

Not all lubes are equal. Some are water-based, which works better with condoms. You can also mix natural ingredients like coconut oil with shey better to get a healthy, creamy lube that you could even eat. Take 2 parts of shey butter and 1 part of coconut oil and melt them down in a pan. Mix them. Then, put it in the fridge to cool until hard, which is about 24 hours. You’ll have an amazing, creamy oil that will last a long, long time. However, you cannot use condoms with an oil-based lube…

37. Remove Pressure in the Bladder

This only makes sense. By taking a piss before having sex, you remove the pressure in more ways than one! That extra pressure from the bladder can put extra pressure on your prostate, which can lead to premature ejaculation. Also, it is simply uncomfortable to have to take a piss while having sex. So, don’t forget. Do it beforehand.

38. Use the 7 and 9 Method

The 7 and 9 method is where you stroke your mamba seven times fast, followed by nine times long, and repeat it over and over again in order to get a rhythm going. By doing so, you occupy your mind with the rhythm so that you can last a lot longer. Also, it gets your mind out of the stress zone.

39. The One Time Eating Candy Is Actually Good For You

We already talked about dark chocolate and cocoa in step number 8. But also eating anything that has carbohydrates 15 minutes before sex can help to boost lasting time. It’s the one time when eating a candy bar can actually be a good thing! Heck, give her one, too, so that she can endure your extra energy boost!

40. Have a Positive Outlook – It Can Make All the Difference

It has been proven that having a positive outlook on life can make a huge difference in all areas of your life, including sex. When you choose to feel good no matter what, you raise your serotonin, a neurotransmitter that lets you last longer. One of the best ways to keep those serotonin levels high is to purposely feel good – to have a positive outlook on life.

41. Keep It Going

Some guys can maintain an erection even after spanking the monkey and freeing the mini-mes… If you are one of those guys, just keep on going! If this is your case, last as long as you comfortably can, but if you shoot the goo early, don’t even worry about it. Women are impressed by guys whose dicks remain hard even after coming. It can even turn her on a lot to get to have your baby batter out and about…

In summary, there are many things that you can do in order to keep from blasting off too soon. The first and foremost thing that you can do is to get it out of your head that you have a problem. Thinking that you have a problem only makes it worse!

Ready To Last Longer?

The bottom line is that if you want to last longer in bed, you’ve got to take care of yourself. Get enough sleep, exercise, eat right, and take care of the biggest sex organ you have: your brain! Well, actually, it is your brain and your mind. Meditation, being present, and using a technique like Emotional Freedom Techniques will definitely help.