Once in a while, it’s normal for a partner to not be in the mood for sex when you are. But if she is never in the mood, then that is an entirely different problem.
In a healthy relationship, the woman wants to have sex most of the time that her partner does, unless there is a real reason why she cannot.
But if it seems like she always has an excuse, such as a headache, or feeling too tired, or whatever, there may be some things that you can do to improve things.
If she is never in the mood, then here may be the reasons why, and finally, what you can do about it:
Reason #1: The Beta-Male Trap
Beta-male behavior can cause her vagina to dry up faster than the dry season in the Sahara desert.
Guys who have not had good, male figure role models in their lives tend to become way too beta-male. They tend to think that what women want is a super nice guy who will bend over backwards to fulfill their every heart’s desire.
That may sound good in the movies, but its complete utter nonsense. Women would way much rather have a bad boy type of guy who treats them like crap but who has the traits of an alpha male than a beta-male any day.
Even the women who say that’s not true know that at some deep, primal level that it is. I’m right. They’re wrong.
I’m not saying to treat your woman like crap – I’m saying that valuing yourself is so important, that a woman would rather be with a bad boy type just to be around with someone with that much confidence.
So, don’t fall for the beta-male trap.
Reason #2: You’re too Selfish in Bed
This should go without saying. If you’re too selfish in bed, she’s never going to be in the mood. She’s going to find all kinds of excuses to avoid sex because she doesn’t even want to talk about it.
If she doesn’t even want to talk about it, that’s a really bad sign. What it means is that you are so far off from where she wants the sex to be that it’s not even worth it to her to try to improve it.
The key to this is to make sure that she gets off before you do. If you orgasm and don’t make sure that she gets off too, then she’s going to look at you as a selfish bastard who never satisfies her needs. So, she’ll never be in the mood.
Reason #3: You’re “Too Nice”
Being too nice is just nauseating to a woman. I remember being a bit too nice when I was young. I wasn’t sure if the girls I was with where screaming in pain or ecstasy, and I’d stop half way and ask if she was alright.
Guess what? They were always alright. But stopping while she was building her orgasm was like the worst thing in the world I could have ever done.
Women are a lot different than us. In order to get them to come, we have to do things in just a certain way, at just the right time, and then we have to do whatever is working in the moment.
Too many guys change it up in the middle of sex either because they are being too nice, or they think that trying a zillion positions in under 10 minutes is what’s going to turn her on.
So, avoid the trap of being too nice. Bang her good. Her pleasure tunnel can really take a beating more than you can imagine – within reason of course.
Reason #4: You’re Feeding Her Ego too Much
This takes a bit of explaining, and it’s a bit delicate so hear me out.
If you give your woman the feeling that she is out of your league, down deep, she will lose respect for you and sexual attraction.
Does this mean that you never tell her that she’s beautiful? No. It simply means that you don’t overdo it.
If your girl is absolutely perfect, do you know how many guys hit on her constantly? Probably 10 a day. Want to know what all of them do? They all tell her how beautiful she is.
She hears it so many times from so many guys, so many beta males, that she’s sick of it. She will automatically turn them away without even a thought.
But it is the guy who can tease her a bit about some little flaw that will get her heart. I know this sounds crazy, but hold on.
You’re got to knock her off that pedestal that all other guys put her on. Don’t be mean about it. Simply be honest and truthful. Point out the freckles across her nose, or how she is a bit bow legged – in the beginning when you’re dating.
When you let her know that you’re in her league, she will think that she’s with the right guy.
What to do to Change Things
There could be a lot of reasons why she is never in the mood, and it could actually even be a physical problem that she has where she needs to see a doctor. But putting aside health issues, here is what you can do.
Stop it. Stop acting like a weak, insecure beta-male. Be a man in bed. Be in control, and be decisive. Be the one to take the lead and lead her to the bedroom.
Get what you want.
Usually, women actually love it when their guy shows them how much they want to have a blowjob and sex. So, be a bit demanding. Ask for it.
But you must ask for it the right way. If you want to learn how to get more blowjobs you need to be subtle – grabbing her head and showing it down there won’t work.
Many women like dirty talk too, so give it to her. Let her know whose boss and what you want. Let her be submissive, and give it to her – whether that be your manhood in her mouth, or full on sex.
