I’m sure you’ve all been there. A woman asks you a question, you answer what you think is correctly, but you’re just berated for your answer. It can be about anything, from what she’s wearing to what she said, but it can be a stressful situation to hear. Or what if you’re about to say something to a woman but you’re second-guessing if she wants to here it? Of course all men like to say women are just complicated and impossible to please, and women like to say that men are just jerks. This isn’t true; it’s all just about trying to understand one another. Whike it is impossible to hear womens thoughts (unless your Mel Gibson in the movie ‘What Women Want’) So to help you out, we’ve compiled a list of things that women do want to actually hear.
Tell me what you’re passionate about.
Show her you’re interested in more than just what’s on the surface and you want to get to know her deeper down. A woman doesn’t want to her “what do you like?” because it’s a boring, way too open ended question with way too many answers.
You’re smart and beautiful.
This is an obvious one, but no woman wants to just be “beautiful.” There’s more to every woman (and man) than her looks, and talking only about looks is only going to irritate them. Show them you mean more than that.
I’m not saying you’re perfect, I’m just saying I love who you are.
This is the kind of thing that can put you in hot water pretty easily. You say she’s not perfect—well, duh, but also that’s offensive and hurtful. But you say she’s perfect and you’re putting her on a pedestal and she probably won’t be happy with that either. Acknowledging that she, nor anyone else, is not perfect but you wouldn’t change anything, implies that you love her and everything about her, but without putting pressure on her.
Your personality is my favorite thing about you.
Remember what I said about looks? This is something ladies love to hear because it means you care more about than what’s on the outside, and it will gain you major points.
I feel comfortable with you.
This may be debated, because saying you’re “comfortable” with someone can mean you no longer care how they see you, but women love to hear that because it means you’re in a great place and you get along really well. It’s nice to know that the guy you’re seeing is happy to just be around you no matter what—because life isn’t perfect.
Women are complicated and so are men, but of the many things you can say to a woman, these are all great options and wonderful alternatives to some of the over-used clichés. Don’t fall into the trap of just saying “you’re amazing” or “you’re beautiful” all the time: it’s old and it doesn’t mean much.
