The people we choose to hang out with can define who we are, what we do, and why we do things. If you hang out with a bunch of guys who are obsessed with sports, then the chances are that you will spend a lot of time in bars watching games or actually at different sport games. The same goes for you if you hang out with guys who are into music, then you will spend a lot of time at gigs or at your homes discussing the newest, coolest bands and whether or not music awards still mean anything for the business. If you hang out with guys who you have not got anything in common with, then of course you have managed to get the wrong sort of friends for you – they may all be really great guys but when it comes down to it what do you actually talk about and do?
It is a pretty common thing for a lot of us to fall into a group of friends who are not that suited to us, really. Whether that is because you have all known each other for a long time or it just simply happened that way, it is essential for you to surround yourself with people who have the same goals, same interests and a similar outlook on life. If you feel that you need to sort of wean off your old friends, and want to make new ones then do not stress – it is pretty easy to do.
Instead of completely cutting yourself off from your already established group of friends, just do less things with them. If you went to a bar with them, say, three times a week, cut it down to once a week instead. This way, they will be less inclined to think you don’t want to hang out with them anymore and you are just busy. It is not a good idea to say things like, “I can’t be bothered,” or you don’t reply to their texts or calls.
When looking for new friends, familiarize yourself with what cool new things are going on, that you could possibly look up and gain knowledge on. dudepins.com is a Pinterest for men – and using sites like that can really enhance your knowledge of new things. Sometimes guys find it hard to introduce themselves to other guys, but this is an essential part of gaining more friends. Casually sit next to a group of guys in you are in a bar, and overhear their conversation – this way you will be able to tell if they’re the sort of guys you want to hang out with. Then, when there is a pause in their conversation you could say that you couldn’t help listening to what they were talking about and if they would mind if you joined their table.
Don’t push yourself into groups just for the sake of it – bide your time and it is almost guaranteed you will find a new group of friends you will want to hang out with.
