From Hanging in Bars to Hot Hookups: How Adult Dating Sites Changed My Post-Breakup World

A few months ago, I found myself sitting in a bar and feeling glum. Having come out of a longterm relationship a few weeks before, I was ready to start putting myself back out there again, but I wasn’t ready for anything serious. I just wanted to have fun.

Bars and clubs are horrible places to meet people, it turns out. You find yourself saying the same old tired lines and then have to navigate making it clear that you’re just interested in hooking up. Most dating sites are equally a pain; you pay to sign up and work your way through people who aren’t a great fit or who are interested in more commitment than you have to offer at the time.

Real Adult Dating

Sick of all of this, I stumbled up on the world of internet sites for adult dating. Of course, all of the mainstream sites are for adults; those aren’t what I mean. I’m talking sites that allow adults – and especially guys – to cut to the chase and look for fun flings and one-nighters.

A Relief for Guys

I can’t stress enough how wonderful these sites are for men. Most of the women I had met after my breakup were looking for something long term. Adult dating sites are full of women who are looking for the same thing I am and are excited to get down right away. Both parties know exactly what the other is looking for so no one is disappointed!

I Think I’ll Stay Here for Awhile

When I first discovered that these kinds of dating sites existed, I figured I’d have a few hook-ups before looking for something more lasting. But you know what? I’m having so much fun that I think I might just enjoy myself for a while.