Tired of your lack of results in the dating arena? If you’re having problems attracting good dates, it’s time to take a long hard look at yourself and make some serious changes.
In this article, we’ll help you overhaul your image so you can finally be with the type of lady you deserve to have in your life.
Take grooming/appearance seriously
Be honest with yourself: Would you go out with yourself, given your current hygiene habits? If you routinely neglect to brush your teeth, don’t shave for days on end, and have ill-fitting clothes that make you look like a slob, the answer is likely a hard no.
If you aren’t putting the best version of yourself out into the world, why would you expect to have any luck with women?
What should you do? Getting a haircut that costs more than $30, trading in your drugstore shampoo for a salon-approved product, brushing after every meal, and shaving before heading out in public are solid steps in the right direction.
Next, re-evaluate your entire wardrobe – do the legs on your pants come up short? Do you have any respectable semi-formal shirts that would look good in a fine dining establishment? Do your shoes have any visible signs of wear?
Visit a trusted menswear store and get the sales staff to not only help you pick out some dapper outfits but also get them to counsel you on the basics of style. These guys live, eat, and breathe men’s fashion, so ask any question that comes to mind.
Work on yourself
If you have any hope of competing with the most eligible males in your area, you need something to offer the women you date. Will slumping down on the couch after work and ordering takeout every night make you the kind of guy women want to date? Not bloody likely.
Hit the gym on a regular basis. Go hiking on weekends. Take up a hobby like drawing or painting. Get in touch with old friends and make new ones.
All these things distinguish you from others, give you depth, and make you more attractive to women with whom you share common ground.
Develop a sense of humor
On average, adults only laugh four times per day – after childhood, many of us are chronically starved of joy. As such, being able to make your dates giggle will help you get your foot in the door.
Life is better when everyone is having fun. If you can become the guy who can see the lighter side in everyday situations, you stand an excellent chance of winning overall but the coldest of hearts.
Start by learning to laugh at yourself – once you stop taking yourself too seriously, you will begin to see the humorous side of everything else in your daily life, and soon, you’ll be able to crack jokes with ease.
Have a clear career trajectory
Many men give up mentally at this hurdle – they are stuck in a dead-end job or one they hate – often, it’s both.
However, you don’t have to be a hotshot executive, a lawyer, or a doctor to score the women of your dreams – you just need a clear idea of where you’re going and show that you are working towards it.
Shore up your savings, take some courses, and talk about where you want to be three to five years down the road.
It doesn’t matter where you are now – being able to pay the bills and having greater ambitions for the future is often enough to satisfy an intelligent woman in the present. Just don’t let up once you’re together because she won’t!
