As men, we know that building up aggression is part of our everyday lives. Perhaps things didn’t go as planned during our job presentation, maybe we had an argument with our girlfriend because she made us miss the football game to watch Dancing with the Stars, or possibly our dog took a dump on our brand new carpet that was installed less than a week ago. Whatever the case may be, we get angry. Anger certainly is not healthy and we need a way to release all the built up aggression. But how? There are many different ways of easing your tension, you just have to find what works best for you. These solutions could include exercise, taking a drive, or even sex!
For me, my greatest aggravation comes from the mother of my child. No, we are not still together. Yes, she is still constantly nagging and taking my money. So what do I do to release my aggression? It really depends on the mood I am in or what she has done to set me off. There are three basic situations that she invokes that causes me to become angry beyond belief. The first is when she does not allow me to have any extra time with my son. The next being when she constantly insists we go to court just to see how much more child support she can get out of me. The third is when she tells me that if I were more like her now husband, things would be different between us. Aggravation is just built up energy that needs to be released. Trust me, releasing your aggression is a lot easier than finding English speaking jobs in Germany.
I know that some men out there don’t necessarily care about the children the may have or the amount of time they spend with their children, but I cherish every second I have with my little boy. When his mother tells me I cannot see him for whatever reason, it puts me in an angry depression. In this case, I do not like to be around anyone. So what do I do? I go out in my car, find a long stretch of back roads, and turn on the hard rock channel on Pandora. Music is a great cure for when you’re depressed.
When that… I won’t say the word I’m thinking. When she tries to get more money from me, this not only aggravates me but it also motivates me. It motivates me to make more money to prove how much better off I am from her. If she needs a few extra bucks to make herself feel like she has accomplished something, so be it. You can have your extra $10 a month while I’m going to go out and make an extra couple hundred. How do you like me now?
The one thing that really sets me off is being compared to her husband. For one, I don’t want to be like your husband because then I’d still be stuck with you. Second, I am no expert but it sounds like if you continuously compare me to him, he really isn’t all that great. Even so, this still makes me mad. This amount of aggression can only be released by doing something physical. She puts the image of another guy in my mind. The image of another guy spending time with my son and building that relationship that only a father should have with his child. I want to fight him. Since I can’t fight him I have joined a local boxing club allowing me to picture his ugly mug on my opponent and beat the snot out of him until I can no longer lift my arms.
Letting aggression build up is dangerous. So dangerous that it could cost you everything. Imagine a balloon. It can only hold so much air before it pops. Dealing with aggression is no different. I am not saying you need to do the things I do to release your aggression but you will need to find something that allows you to release that negative energy. Once you find that one thing, you will feel much better. By the way, did I mention sex as a fantastic way to release your energy?
