If there is a physical activity that involves an endless amount of creativity, it’s sex. There are literally hundreds of things you can do to diversify your sex life and try new things. And if you’re new to exploring your sexual side, we got your back.
Below is a list of things that we believe every couple should try, regardless of your gender or sexuality. This is your sexual exploration checklist. Every time you tick something off, give yourself a reward … trying something else on the list, perhaps? We won’t judge.
My Sexual Exploration Checklist
- Watch ethical porn together where porn stars are actually paid the money they deserve and are treated properly. Bellesa.co is a great site for this.
- Try having sex in a different location other than your bedroom.
- Try wet shower sex in the shower or the bath. Maybe a hot tub?
- Try a massage candle.
- Buy a new sex toy
- Use a remote-controlled sex toy in public. You. Will. Not. Regret. It.
- Send a nude to each other. If you’re a rule-follower that has never sent a nude, do it. You will feel so naughty.
- Experiment with anal play. If you like it, graduate onto anal sex.
- Surprise your partner at the door wearing only lingerie and a coat on top.
- Spend a night only giving each other oral sex.
- Give each other a head-to-toe massage.
- Experiment with swinging. This one might be a big no-no for some of you, but for others … well you might just surprise yourself. Look up your local swingers club and go to one of their newbie events – it’s way better meeting people in person than online.
- Have sex in one of your parents’ houses. You’ll feel like blushing teenagers trying to keep quiet!
- Experiment with different lubes and/or condoms. There’s such a huge array on the market these days, all geared to heighten both of your pleasures. Pick a new one up next time you’re at the drugstore.
- Act out a sex scene from your favorite novel or film. Hint, hint, 365 Days has a lot of these. And the books have been translated into English, so get reading y’all.
- Spend one night focusing on the pleasure of one person and then swap the next night.
- Visit a sex shop. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking around at the erotic products is enough to turn you on. Though you probably will leave with something!
- Mix food and sex. Maybe try the famous grapefruit technique by Auntie Angel or drizzle your lover with chocolate syrup.
- Try tantric sex. Slooowww it rightttt dowwwnnnn.
- Read erotica to each other. With a lot of focus being on porn these days, reading erotica can be a refreshing change.
- Experiment with your sexualities together. Maybe have a threesome involving a gender that you’ve never had sex with before. You might just enjoy yourself.
- Try a different position. Basic, but we quite often get into a rut and do the same positions all the time. Mix it up and try something different.
- Experiment with bondage. Tie each other up and let the fun begin. You won’t regret it.
- Try a dominant and submissive relationship for a day. And I’m not just talking about in the bedroom. One of you is the dominant and the other a submissive for the whole day. If it gets sexual, then it gets sexual! If you’ve always wanted to try BDSM, now is your time to see if you like it.
- Spank each other. I think Anastasia Steele was being a bit dramatic. Spanking sex can be really pleasurable and satisfying if done properly. Don’t let Anna scare you off.
- Try a role play. The mistress and the stable boy, the fireman and damsel in distress, the alien and the warlock. Whatever your vibe, do it!
- Make a homemade sex tape. Just prop up your smartphone somewhere in your room and press record. You don’t have to save it … or maybe you’ll want to …
- Have sex while listening to music. Pump up the music loud so you can’t hear anything outside the headphones.
- Have car sex. Pack a blanket and head somewhere deserted. You don’t want to get caught by the police.
- Have a threesome. Nuff said.
- Masturbate in front of your partner. Another simple one but some of us just don’t do this. Why, people? Do it! Put on a show.
- Do the 69. It’s old school but oh so good.
- Send your partner a dirty text while he’s sitting in front of family or friends. We’ve all seen the TikTok where a guy gets a dirty text in front of his grandma. Do it, be naughty!
- Book a fancy hotel room and have the best sex of your life. Nobody gets horny at a Holiday Inn, darling.
- Buy sexy lingerie or a sexy outfit and surprise your partner.
- Talk dirty to your beau in a foreign language. If you don’t know any other languages, learn a few dirty phrases. It will definitely get their attention.
- Try nipple play and try to climax only from that.
- Try cuckolding. This is up there with swinging, as in it’s not for everyone. But, again, you might just surprise yourself.
- Pegging. Give it a go.
- Give your lover a lap dance. Tip your lover by putting dollar bills in their pocket or bra, just like real exotic dancers.
- Touch each other inappropriately in public (but not too obviously). In a jacuzzi at the gym? Brush their ass by accident. In an elevator? Brush their ass by accident. You know the drill.
- Wear something sexy underneath your clothes while at work, whether it be a chastity cage on your penis or some ben wa balls in your vagina. That will definitely turn the mundane working day into something else!
- Try to achieve a simultaneous orgasm with your partner. This one’s a toughie, but it’s great if you can get it right.
- Abstain from sex for a certain amount of time. Not having the option to have sex when you want it is sometimes hotter than having it.
- Take a sex toy on vacation with you. Better pack it in your luggage, though, not in your carry-ons. That could make the conversation with the TSA interesting …
And there you have it, your sexual exploration checklist! Print it out and stick it up in your partner’s side of the closet and watch their reaction. You’ll be ticking some off in no time!
